9 intense sources of teens’ anxiety today
We all know what having an anxiety attack truly means. We’ve all experienced that chaotic mess of feelings like fear, confusion, embarrassment, and sadness.
Even as grown-ups, we struggle with fighting anxiety. Imagine what it must feel like being a teen and not being able to explain to anyone the emotions flowing through your mind.
Here are the 9 most common causes of anxiety amongst teens.
1. Thinking happiness is the ultimate goal.
Nowadays, most of the people believe that happiness is something they get as a prize. They don’t realize that it’s something we build ourselves. That’s why a lot of parents are trying to make their kids happy and cheerful all the time.
Some parents think it’s their duty to keep their children pleased. Whenever their kids are sad or angry, instead of figuring out the reason for this emotion, moms and dads often try to cheer them up as fast as they can. As they grow up with this mentality, teens believe that if they feel any emotion different from happiness, then something must be wrong. This misunderstanding of their own feelings overwhelms their minds and makes them extremely anxious at times.
2. Lack of emotional skills.
In our world, we value academic and professional experiences over emotional skills. We teach kids that it’s more important to be successful than to have genuine friends who will always be there for you. Students feel quite unprepared for college and work because they have no idea how to handle simple social situations requiring soft skills.
Teens who have no developed emotional intelligence are at risk of getting an anxiety attack any time they need to use those skills.
3. Unrealistic esteem.
As parents constantly try to please their kids, they tend to say superlatives like “You’re the smartest kid in your class.” or “You’re the best athlete in your team.” They don’t realize that instead of building self-esteem, the kids feel pressured to meet their parents’ high expectations. This is one of the most common reasons for teens’ fear of failing or being rejected.
4. Restricted playtime.
Kids need their playtime. Don’t overwhelm them with numerous courses, art classes, and organized sports. While you may think you’re doing something great for your children, they’re actually doing all these activities only to please you.
No child is happy about not having enough time to play. Without playtime, how would our kids learn how to handle disagreements without an adult watching over them all the time?
5. Parents who can’t say ‘no’ to their kids.
Imagine for a minute that you are the teen at home. If your parents always give you what you want and let you do whatever you have in mind, you would quickly get used to it, wouldn’t you? And in case you don’t get what you want, you would get pretty anxious because you wouldn’t know how to react to this.
That’s why parents need to learn how to say ‘no’ from time to time. Kids need to know they can’t always get everything they want. This will teach them how to handle bigger situations in their lives as adults.
6. Having no idea how to face their fears.
We already pointed out parents who over-push their kids. On the other side, we have adults who never push their children. The ones who let their kids avoid anything that seems too hard to overcome. This parenting tactic is also not in the right direction.
By staying away from things that scare them, teens could never learn how to face their fears the right way. They will always expect their parents to be around. And when they are in a situation they have to do the thing that scares them the most, instead of stepping up, they would run away from their problems forever.
7. Disorganized family roles.
In any settled system, when the hierarchy goes wrong, everything messes up. The same is with families. Children need to know who is the parent at home, and to whom they should answer. If they are given too much freedom, they get pretty confused and often anxious.
8. Overprotective parents.
It is okay to watch over your kids and keep them away for troubles. What is not okay is keeping them away from learning vital life-lessons, by being overprotective.
Many parents believe their role in their children’s lives is to protect them from everything that might hurt or sadden them. If it were up to adults, kids will grow up with no physical or emotional scars at all. While this all represents one great intention, the outcome is often mentally damaging for teens.
9. Digital overflooding.
This constant access teens have to all kinds of digital devices is slowly damaging them in various ways. Most of the time they use their smartphones or tablets to escape from reality. A lot of teens have a completely different life online, and sadly, they prefer to live there.
Perhaps they use it to run away from the boredom, loneliness, and sadness they experience on a daily basis. Unfortunately, this stops them from building strong self-conscious and developing good emotional skills. And as we already know, teens need emotional skills to be able to handle the everyday challenges life has prepared for them.