The connection between verbal abuse and anxiety we have all been blind to

Long-term mental abuse may be deeply related to anxiety.

Experiences of trauma and stress can lead to the development of mental disorders of which the most common is anxiety. 

Some people do not see mental abuse as a big deal. However, we have to understand that insults, yelling, and disrespecting another person may, in fact, cause them harm. Verbal and physical abuse can often translate to similar levels of harm.

Researchers reveal that both cyberbullying and real-life abuse can be dangerous to the individual, as they affect both brain hemispheres, and lead to serious health issues.

According to author and bullying expert, Sherri Gordon:

“Because verbal abuse isn’t as clear-cut as other forms of abuse and bullying, like physical bullying and sexual bullying, it can be hard to identify. But that doesn’t make it any less real.

Typically, verbal abuse involves some sort of verbal interaction that causes a person emotional harm. For instance, when someone is being downright critical, acting out in anger, and using words to try to control another person, this is verbal abuse.

This, in turn, leaves a victim questioning who they are. In fact, it is not uncommon for a victim of verbal abuse to feel inadequate, stupid, and worthless. After all, they are being defined by a verbally abusive person.

If verbal abuse occurs in a dating relationship, it can be particularly confusing because the partner is likely not abusive all the time.

As a result, when the abuser is loving and gentle the victim can forget all the about the negative behavior. Ultimately, the victim ends up ignoring the pattern of verbal abuse or makes excuses for the behavior saying things like he is just stressed out or he is going through a tough time right now.”

Victims of verbal abuse can, as a result, suffer from:

  • Migraines
  • Eating disorders
  • Digestive issue
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • PTSD
  • Chronic pain
  • Overthinking
  • Indecisiveness
  • Diminished self-esteem and lack of enthusiasm

Verbal abuse comes in various behavioral forms, some of which are:

1.  Name-calling

A way to manipulate people and harm a person

2. Mood killer

Abusers will spoil your good mood by killing it every chance they get since they get enjoyment out of your sadness and are thus able to be in control of the situation.

3. They are always right

Abusers are unapologetic in their behavior as they think they are never wrong.

4. Vicious jokes

If jokes turn into vicious verbal bullying it can cause harm to the person affected.

5. Judging the interests of others

Abusers are known for blaming the interests and hobbies of others in order to make them feel worthless, and sometimes even end up lying just so they can achieve this goal.

6. Blame

Abusers often end up blaming other people for their misfortunes in order to make them feel guilty and never good enough.

7. Disrespect

Abusers do not appreciate anything others do and usually disrespect them to make them feel hollow and useless.

8. No witnesses 

Victims of verbal abuse are usually tormented behind closed doors when no one is around to see it unfold. It can happen at work, at school, or at home, and lead to serious trauma.

9. Isolation of the abused

Victims of verbal abuse often avoid socializing and live in isolation to protect themselves from further harm. They lack self-confidence due to their anxiousness of having others around. If you ever notice something like this, do your best to help this person out.

If you have suffered from verbal abuse keep in mind that the healing process will take time. However, you should always trust your gut, and as soon as you spot such behavior, you must do something about it before it gets out of hand. The following tips will help you out in doing so:

  •  Make sure to set boundaries and avoid engaging in unreasonable arguments
  • Start thinking about your own well-being as reasoning is unlikely to work with such a person
  • Stop communicating when you feel ready, even if it may seem difficult
  • Speak with someone who could help or join a support group. Other people’s stories will encourage you to find the right path.

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